I'm Afraid Something Is Fundamentally Wrong With Me...

“Feeling something is wrong with me is the toxic gas I am always breathing.”

– Tara Brach, Radical Acceptance

​As a therapist, I hear this question (or the quiet ache beneath it) all the time. If you’re here, chances are you know that feeling—the one that whispers, or sometimes screams, that you’re broken, defective, or not enough.

To cope, many of us numb out with food, alcohol, or scrolling. Others work themselves to exhaustion chasing scraps of worthiness, cling to relationships that hurt, or live with the constant fear that if people really knew them, they’d leave.

The cruel twist is that these coping strategies often add more suffering and seem to confirm the very lie you already believe: something is wrong with me. No wonder you feel exhausted, hopeless, or convinced you’ll never feel whole in your own skin.

Here’s the truth: nothing is fundamentally wrong with you. You’re human—and right now you may just need some guidance back to your true nature.

I know what you might be thinking: How would you know? You don’t know me. You don’t know what I’ve done, or still do. And you’re right—I don’t know your story yet.

But I do know this: all people carry basic goodness, and just because you can’t see it in yourself right now doesn’t mean it isn’t there.

In our work, I help you loosen the grip of that toxic story and begin building new ways of relating to yourself and others. That might mean processing painful memories with EMDR, exploring your inner world with IFS, or simply learning how to breathe something other than self-blame.

You may not believe change is possible right now—and that’s okay. My job is to hold the hope until you can feel it for yourself: that nothing is fundamentally wrong with you, and you are capable of belonging, connection, and freedom.

If you’re ready to start untangling that lie, I’d love to walk with you. Around here, I call myself a hope dealer—because when you can’t see the light, I’ll hold it for you until you can.